Women Corner

One of the best parts of a long term relationship is the gradual building up of trust and friendship, which can create very solid foundations that will help your relationship to last into the future. However the downsides of getting to know each other better and getting more comfortable with each can be that some of the zap and zing goes out of your sex life, and so it is important not to let this vital area of your relationship slip.

Make an Effort
One of the main reasons why sex life can suffer in a long term relationship is that work and family commitments can get on top of people, causing them to become emotionally and physically drained and this can make it difficult to summon up the energy for passionate, loving sex. Basically after a hard day you often feel more like climbing into bed with a good book and a cup of tea, rather then getting hot and sweaty with your loved one. However sex and intimate acts such as massage and heavy petting are vital stress relievers, and can have very beneficial effects on your overall health and energy levels, and so with just a little bit of effort you can really work out some of your stress and tension in the bedroom, leaving you feel much more positive about things in general.

No pressure
If your sex life has slowed down lately then don’t feel like you should try and rush into reviving it immediately, as this can put too much pressure on both of you and can actually make things worse. As long as you are still being intimate with each other, with plenty of cuddling, kissing and touching, then full penetrative sex can be put on the back burner for a while until you both feel up to again.

Allow Time to Be a Couple
As your relationship grows you will probably find the day to day aspects of your lives becoming more entwined, as you may move in with each other, get married and have a family, but you must remember to set aside time for just the two of you to be a couple again, and enjoy each other intimately. Weekends away are great for reigniting that sexy spark you enjoyed in the first flush of your relationship, as it gets you away from the mundane chores of the home and lets you free to indulge each other uninterrupted. Evenings out also give you both a chance to dress up and remind yourself how sexy you both look and feel at your very best, and also get you away from stresses of everyday life.

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