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In the last 15 years the national divorce rate has increased by over 37%. Over half of all marriages end in divorce and that rate is rising every year. There are many root causes to divorce. It is not a simple process, legally or emotionally. Here are some of the top reasons why couples file for divorce.

Infidelity

Infidelity is the cause of over 25% of divorces. Typically infidelity isn’t exactly the root cause for the marital problems. Typically it is just a symptom of a much larger problem. However it is very hard for a couple to recover from infidelity, and for many couples, infidelity is simply the catalyst that sets the divorce into motion.
There are several lasting effects of infidelity for both parties involved. Not only can there be some serious trust and commitment issues that will need to be ironed out, but there may even be health related issues like sexually transmitted diseases.

Are you trying to build trust in a relationship? If you have already broken the trust then it can be virtually impossible to get back. Luckily there are several things you can do to rebuild that trust. Here are 4 simple ways to rebuild that trust and regain lost ground in your relationship.

#1 – It is very important that you communicate honestly with your partner. This is very important because after any incident that threatens the trust in a relationship both parties are going to be on high alert and there’s not going to be a “benefit of the doubt” or any sign of real trust until it is gained again… If one of you catches the other in a lie then there’s very little hope for regaining trust.

So you’ve finally found another guy and came out of your post-divorce depression. That’s great! Unfortunately for many women starting another relationship is very hard when their children disapprove or simply don’t like your new boyfriend. This is a touchy spot to be in. First off you have the relationship itself. Its new, you’re not 100% sure where it will end up and you might be afraid that even though he says that he loves children, he might change his mind if your little one doesn’t start warming up to him.

On the other hand you have your child, who obviously comes first and foremost before any guy. So what’s the answer? Are you doomed to living a singles life until your son or daughter grows up?

Having to deal with your husband’s ex-wife can be frustrating to say the least. There are many reasons why your husband might need to stay in contact with his ex. If children are involved, then you’ll need to be prepared to have some sort of an understanding with this woman. Some ground rules and guidelines probably wont hurt either. You basically just want to foresee any issues that you and your husband could have with her and decide how to handle them before they become real problems.

First and foremost, talk to your husband and get a clear understanding as to when and why he will want you to get involved with talking to his ex. If there are child visitations, school functions or even some straggling financial ties with your husband then most likely you’ll need to talk to her sooner than later.

Bad communication is a plague that can destroy a perfectly good marriage. Every once in a while you hear might hear a friend or colleague say something like: “Oh me and my husband NEVER fight.” This only means one of two things…that your friend has beaten incredibly short odds and ended up in a relationship that needs 0 upkeep, or she’s under the false impression that “silence” is golden in a relationship. It’s not. In fact silence in a relationship is a bomb waiting to blow up and divorce is typically the only rubble left over.

 How do I know if we’re stuck in the “Silent Rut”?

Have you and your husband had a fight within the last few months? If you haven’t then there may be a problem. Actually…have you and your spouse had ANY sort of meaningful discussion over the last few months? You may have disconnected somewhere. Maybe there was a point where one or both of you, either intentionally or unconsciously decided that to just stop talking instead of dealing with the shouting or negative criticisms that accompany heated arguments.